For Those We Love
We have all, at some time, lost someone dear to us. And losing a parent, husband, wife or child can be the hardest think in the world.
And a funeral can be heartrendingly difficult.
Many people have said to me they cannot begin to think what to say at the funeral of a loved one. Caught in grief, words do not come easily for many
My reply is always that if you speak from the heart, it doesn’t need to be perfect or well crafted. This is not a time to worry about such things.
So, today, I am sharing the poem I wrote for my own mother’s funeral.
It would get no good marks from my English teacher – that I know.
But it helped and meant something to me, and I believe, to others who shared that moment.
And yes, it was written without revision – straight from my heart.
If it helps anyone when they are thinking and coping with loss, here it is:
When I am gone, think of me fondly,
Remember my ways with kindness,
Look past the foibles, and the times we couldn’t agree
Remember me fondly.
When I am gone, don’t think too often
Remember to live your life
Reach for the stars, and live your own way
Don’t look back too often
When I am gone, smile at my name
Keep it safe in a memory
Tuck memories away, and hold them dear
but remember all the same,
When I am gone, think of me tenderly
Remember the sharing
The times we laughed or smiled, with no fraught words
But the best of yesterday
When I am gone, be sure that I’m waiting
Time is but nothing
At Rainbow bridge, the sun always shines,
There we’ll be waiting
Till we cross that bridge together, when we all are gone.
With love, Ellie
© Ellie Appleton www.elliescommunity.com